It so happened one day at the basement of Biological Sciences, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, underneath a tree, a friend and myself saw a lady (who was our class mate then). She was somehow restless and we were forced to ask what was wrong with her. It happened that she was very thirsty and had no money on her, but then, she saw some fellowship guys carrying bags of sachet water to be used for a fellowship program nearby. She could have asked them for a sachet of water but she was scared that they might decline to her request. The fear of rejection – of hearing a NO – overshadowed the pleasure of having her thirst quenched. She never even considered the slightest possibility of her getting a YES response.
I could have just asked on her behalf but just thought that if the fear of rejection could stop her on something as small as a sachet of water, then it will likely go on to hunt her in even greater issues paramount to her life and happiness. So we decided to help her out. We taught her some basic principles about fear; that FEAR is just an acronym of False Expectations Appearing Real, How fear can take away her happiness if she gives in to it, that the only way to overcome her fears is to face them. We did all those within a minute or two and thank God those guys with the bags of sachet water were still within reach.
She took courage and ask courteously and she was given a sachet that she asked for. Out of excitement, she almost jumped on me. She was really grateful to us. You might be wondering that what’s the big deal there? She got excited because she just learnt how to overcome her fears, saved from the paralysis of the fear of rejection. She said she has been standing there for almost like forever and couldn’t get herself to ask.
The reality is that the fear of rejection is something that a lot of of has suffered from and are still suffering from. Even if it’s not on small issues as asking for a sachet of water, it’s mostly on even more important issues. Many of us have been stopped from aiming higher, trying harder or even reaching farther because of the fear of rejection.
The fact remains that the fear of rejection is something we MUST all learn to overcome if we will ever achieve anything worthwhile.
It’s been proven beyond doubt that the easiest, fastest and surest way to get whatever you want out of life is to ASK. When you ask enough people for whatever you reasonably want, the law of averages will guarantee your success. It will not guarantee that you’ll always get a desirable response everytime you ask, but it will guarantee that you get enough positive response to enable you succeed. If you can master the techniques of Asking, you’ll take your entire life and career to a whole new level.
Thomas Edison became the world’s greatest inventor with 1093 patents by conducting more failed experiments than anybody else in the world. He failed his way into becoming the greatest inventor in the world.
Never expect to succeed the very first time in everything you attempt. If you do not fail some of the time, you are attempting too little and will accomplish nothing worthwhile.
To Your Success & Fulfilment!
Bode Araoye
Life Strategist
Trainer, Coach, & Keynote Speaker on Personal Development