2. Frame of Reference: How do you know you have done a good job?
The second metaprogram deals with frame of reference which is the key to confidence. It involves how we determine our needs and desires and also how we evaluate our success.
Where do we get our authority, rights, privileges, and permissions for our actions and decisions? How much and what kind of feedbackdo we need to know how well we have performed?
The answers to the above questions lie in our referencing frames which could either be “Internal or External”.
For Individuals who have Internal Frame of Reference, their motivation come from within themselves. They judge their performance internally and trust their instincts. They place little value on opinion of others whether positive or negative. An extreme Internal Frame of reference can go beyond confidence to arrogance.
Once they are not convinced about their work, no amount of external approval will convince them. They however require little supervision – they are self-starters. They will make a very good and effective leader but will need to be able to take in informetion effectively from the outside as well.
Words of Influence (to influence such people) : what’s your opinion on this? Only you can decide, you know what is best.
Likely career : Self employment, entrepreneurship, any job where they can enjoy some autonomy in decision making.
Individuals who have External Frame of Reference seek outside proof; external approval before they can be certain they have done a good job. Motivation comes from outside and they so much dwell on feedback from others. If they are not given feedback, they feel lost and won’t be able to work well. They work best under supervision because they are not self motivated. Such people can not work from home. They need a clear communication of what is expected from them.
Note : Metaprograms are both context and stress-related. If you have done something for years, you will probably have strong internal frame of reference for it and if you are new to it, your reference will be external as to what is right or wrong.
To be continued…
I hope you find this piece educative!
To Your Success!
Bode Araoye
Life Strategist | Personal Growth Expert | Business Trainer
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